In the book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown talks about the characteristics of resilient people.
“They are resourceful and have good problem-solving skills.
They are more likely to seek help.
They hold the belief that they can do something that will help them to manage their feelings and to cope.
They have social support available to them.
They are connected with others, such as family or friends.”
( Brown, 2010)
Resilient people have healthy coping mechanisms; they don’t shy away from seeking help when needed; stay connected with people and have a strong social support system; have an internal locus of control ( knowing that coping is internally based rather than externally driven); and rely on their inner strength and wisdom to tackle issues.
As you can see, there is focus on ‘how to’ solve a problem rather than ‘why’ a problem is there.
Also, getting help at the right time does make a world of difference.
Reference: The gifts of imperfection by Brene Brown.