Rakesh told me that he was being given injections for stress during his visits to the psychiatrist. He had an eye condition for many months that gave him continuous eye pain. When I asked him about the psychiatrist’s diagnosis, he told me that there was no diagnosis! But still he was given sedatives and injections regularly.
According to Emrika Padus, editor of The Complete Guide to Your Emotions and Your Health, each year doctors write millions of prescriptions for tranquilizers. Not only are these drugs potentially dangerous, they’re ineffective at getting to the ’cause’ of Anxiety.
If we do not treat the underlying causes of any emotional or physical condition, we are likely to continue taking mediation with only temporary or no change.
In the EFT sessions with Rakesh, we tapped on many stressors (factors that cause stress) . Gradually his eye pain started going down. He also learnt to recognize and tap on his triggers on his own.
With EFT, you can get to the causes of emotional distress or psycho-somatic ailments and get long lasting relief.
How to get to the ’cause’?
1. Identify the time frame when the problem started – Based on whatever you can remember, make a list of incidents that happened during that time. Tapping on the events during this time frame will help. Rakesh’s eye condition started in school and started getting worse after witnessing constant fights in the family.
2. Ask yourself specific questions such as –
- “When did this problem start?”
- “Is it genetic?”
- “What was happening in my life when this problem started?”
- “Which area of my life was affected?”
My favorite questions, as given by Gray Craig, the retired founder of EFT are
- “When was the first time you can remember feeling the same kind of feeling?”
- “If there was a deeper emotion underlying this problem, what might it be?”
- “If you could live your life over again, what person or event would you prefer to skip?”
- “If there was an emotional contributor to this pain, what would it be?”
Daily Awareness of your thoughts and feelings will help.
We are used to saying “I don’t know” for nearly everything. When we say ‘I don’t know’ in relation to feelings, we basically imply that ‘ I don’t care about myself’.
Take a moment to gauge deeper inside you, you will know why you feel in a certain way. You can give it any name you want – intuition, gut feeling, or simply ‘knowing’. It’s a different thing that you may not want to accept or deal with ‘what you know’. It’s always better to say – ‘I feel this way because maybe I did that’ or ‘I feel this way because maybe he said that …’ than saying “I don’t know”!
Extensive research has revealed that when people put their emotional upheavals into words, their physical and mental health improve markedly. ~James & Lori Stone.
Learning to be aware of what you feel and why you feel in a certain way will help you in getting quickly to the causes of the intense reactions and bothersome feelings on a daily basis and tap on them. Verbalizing the affirmations is indeed effective.
(Names and some details have been changed to protect client confidentiality)